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DRESS STRESS


Just nine days away from my brother's wedding, and to my mother's great horror, I still do not have a dress... 

Months ago my mom made a special trip to the Bay Area, under the guise of visiting with the UrbanToddler, but really to give me some gentle shoves towards the dress shops... I understand her sentiments as I bought my girl's dress for the occasion in April!

But I told my mother then that I was not ready yet to commit to a dress.  

I was and sadly still am trying to lose my pregnancy weight.  And let me say this (if to at least make myself feel better) that I have many legitimate reasons why I am not yet at my ideal shape.  OK, one of those reasons, as you can tell by reading this blog, is my love of good food...   But believe me there are others... Like for instance, I have found that even when I am close to my pre-pregnancy weight, due to loss of muscle tonage in certain mid-region areas, I am still far away from a body I can tolerate in the privacy of my own mirror...  and then, instead of exercise, I spend my down time looking for endearing studies that read something like this:  "Recent study found a direct link between sleep deprivation and weight gain"...   And even though I am still in the back of the line, I suddenly feel happier... perhaps because I feel that there are enough people with me back here to justify a study being done on us...

Anyways, I am flying to Vancouver on Tuesday, and I know that the time has come to commit to a dress.  
And as much as that scares me, the prospect of seeing that look of relief on my mother's face when she sees me in an beautiful dress that fits on Saturday the 18th, makes me push forward.... 
 
After all, what more do mothers want, besides happy children in lovely outfits?
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