I came along, and wrote a song for you... it was called YELLOW

This is my brother.

He was a gift to me for my tenth birthday, as I really really wanted a brother. Or perhaps, my parents really wanted him… who knows the true story of his beginnings. The important thing is that he arrived some 27 years ago…

He has many names. Like Yogi Bear – because he is sweet and bear like. And Yellow Master – because he loves the color yellow (most of his clothing and the walls of his posh bachelor pad ~~are~~ were bright yellow).

He’s blessed with many gifts, best of all a happy, warm and sweet soul. He is very smart. And has a photographic memory, which he uses to memorize statistics about almost anything and everything. Like ask him about a city that no one has heard of, and he’ll tell you their population. He loves playing games. Any kind of games. Like, jumping from behind you to scare you, while you are two months pregnant, and trying to keep it a secret for another month, so you get startled and yell out “DON’T SCARE ME, I’M PREGNANT!” And he is very sensitive. He gets all misty eyed at hearing the news and picks you up in a big bear hug…

He has all kinds of convictions, some of which completely cancel out the others: deep spiritual connections, anti-materialism, and love of fast expensive cars….

He is a great athlete, and has excelled at almost any sport he has pursued over the years… hockey, soccer, tennis, biking, etc…

He is an efficient communicator: Whatever… Ok… Ya…

He is the picture of laid back… he takes loooong naps in the early evening, which makes planning an evening out with him particularly interesting… not only you have to remind him of your meeting time on several occasions as you get close to the date, you actually have to allot additional time for going over and dragging him out of bed to get going on your brother-sister date… But when you do get going, you are sure to have a great time. He knows his food. He knows his restaurants. He loves a wide range of good music. And he is funny.

In another life, in another family, he would have been hosting his own evening stand-up show, like his idol David Lettermen. But my parents set him straight, when they explained to him that some of his and Lettermen’s Top Ten lists, although funny, can get mean. And we don’t like mean! And while they were at it, they also explained that giving friends and family his own school photo as a birthday or Christmas gift, especially since they had given him money to go shopping for the occasion, may not be the best idea….

He is this and so much more… and he is getting married on September 18^th, 2010.

How fast have the days gone by since I brought him home from the hospital and decided to pretend to be his mommy, when I celeberated his birthday every month for the first year of his life with invited guests and gifts and cakes and balloons, until my parents had to put a hard stop on the madness.

So the next couple of weeks of my life will be all Yellow …

Here’s hoping for stars to shine for him. As we here love him dearly.

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