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Letters to Mr. Urban

Dearest Mr. Urban,

We miss you terribly.  Although you are the quietest member of this family, the house is inexplicably empty and quiet since you left.  As promised, we have so far made the best out of this time.

Yesterday, the UrbanTodller and I enjoyed a rare mother-daughter day.  

After nap time, I finally found the time to organize the UrbanToddler's closet, remove her summer clothing, which by now seemed like they were some other tiny person's clothes, and make room for the fall stuff.  But I should have known better, not to engage in such an emotional activity on a day that she was already nostalgic for her daddy.  She wanted to try on everything (which she did), and she did not want me to remove any of her old clothes "It's Preeetttttyyyy Mommy".    

Later, dressed in skinny jeans, long sleeve shirt, monkey boots, floral dress, and a puffy jacket, our girl and I went to The Counter for delicious burgers.  I felt smug when a mom at the next table pointed her out to her own toddler, for sitting so nicely on her high chair.  But sure enough, a few minutes later she wanted to "Sit a Mommy's Lap", where she wanted to enjoy her burger and fries with ample ketchup.  Which I am sure sounds lovely to you, except remember that burgers are eaten by hand, ketchup oozing from in between all fingers...

The rest of the night went by smoothly and quickly.  

Although at Five am this morning, a little girl's voice could be heard in the house, cutely calling for Daddy.  I quickly brought her to our bed, and prayed that she would fall asleep on your pillow.  But for the next hour she proceeded to whisper cute random things into my ear... 


By six, with the help of a village of stuffed animals and a DVD, she was cozy on the couch, and I cozy in front of the computer.  Every once in a while, she turns her eyes from the TV and says "Daddy's at Work", I guess to put my mind at ease on the account of your absence from the house.


We have a busy and exciting day planned with friends.  

Hope you have a safe and nice day. 

Love,

Your UrbanGirls.
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